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$When you cook a Keralan fish curry so good it\'s worthy of it\'s own Instagram post 💁 Three-ish months into lockdown and I do still find cooking pretty therapeutic (though there has been the occasional takeaway/ready meal cause I\'m only human) and people are always surprised that I don\'t really like religiously following recipes. I definitely come from the school of chuck stuff in, taste as you go along, and watch your pans. I don\'t measure anything either. I think that kind of chaotic energy stresses a lot of people out soz 😅$
$Celebrating the 4th July and Hamilton\'s release to Disney+ with a #throwback snap I took back in 2016 in New York ⭐ This was pre-Tony Awards sweep but well into it\'s opening at the Richard Rogers. I think I attempted the digital lotto for tickets about four times and almost cried outside of a Starbucks because I didn\'t get them 😅 It would be another two years till I\'d get to see the show in London. And now after FOUR years I\'ll finally get to see THIS original Broadway cast 🙌$
$Anyone else feeling just very...weird at the moment? With all these lockdown restrictions easing but equally feeling like this is all too soon, whilst also desperately wanting to see family, but also still scared of a second wave, but also just wanting to go about without performing some odd form of parkour to avoid walking into people, then also wanting to hit people with a 1 metre measuring stick and spraying antiseptic at them. I feel cooped up but also fine with staying home if it means keeping others safe for longer. Idk this was a ramble, so feel to brain dump things in the comments if you\'re feeling a type of way too 💞$
$Father\'s Day hits differently this year. Feeling especially grateful my Dad has been recovering well and home with Mum today. Even though I can\'t be with him this year after everything that\'s happened the past few months, I\'m just thankful he\'s still here. I realise that\'s a really privileged thing and my heart goes out to anyone who\'ll be struggling today and any day without their Father figures 💕$
$Happy #IndieBookshopWeek 📚 And a reminder that now\'s as good a time as any to:- 📚 Invest in diverse authors! (Swipe right for my book haul) 📚 Support your indie bookstores 📚 And shop small and local Luckily Muswell Hill Bookshop hit all three for me today!$
$I see you London 💞 One from yesterday\'s walk in the park and my first time properly trekking up to Ally Pally. Had some proper bursts of social media free time this weekend and I think it did my head good. Been doing a lot of offline thinking about this platform for antiracism and am trying to work out the best way I can be useful going forward, whilst also unpacking a lot about my experiences as an East Asian woman growing up in the UK. I don\'t think Instagram is built for that. Debating a move back to familiar blogging territory again 🙃$
$So it\'s Friday. How\'re we feeling folks? Now that many have posted their black square, the blackout hashtags have been and gone, and platitudes and promises have been made that #BlackLivesMatter, I wanted to highlight the passage on the second slide, in which #AudreLorde wrote in 1980 • \"...Black women and our children know the fabric of our lives is stitched with violence and with hatred, that there is no rest.\" • I highlight this passage in particular because it serves as a reminder that even though George Floyd\'s killers have been arrested and charged, WE are not done yet. There is no rest in dismantling white supremacy. It\'s tiring and exhausting, but it\'s absolutely necessary work. • I wrote a blog post in 2017 called \'Welcome to the resistance: Are you sitting uncomfortably\' as a direct response to the Women\'s March. I wrote it as a plea to keep sitting with the uncomfortable energy that comes with active allyship, anti-racist work and challenging white supremacy, not just for the march but for the long run. That endurance faltered quickly after the Women\'s March. Many of us fell complacent - myself included. • We cannot allow that to happen again this time. Because that tiredness, exhaustion and fatigue is something Black and minority ethnic people live with everyday. • The call to arms remains the same as it did back then. Whatever you do, don’t resolve to stand still on issues. Embrace being comfortable with being uncomfortable.$
$Y\'all know what to do. Links in the bio. Do your homework. Donate. Write. Protest. And more importantly keep going. P.s. STOP clogging up the BLM/Black Lives Matter hashtags FFS you\'re pushing actual helpful resources out of the feed 🤦🏻‍♀️$
$This won\'t be a long-winded post and I won\'t bore you with another rant about why #BlackLivesMatter. I know my audience on Instagram is mostly liberal and informed. I see you posting and sharing and shouting angrily. I see (most) of you doing \'the work\' What I am here to do is ask you to get uncomfortable with me. The second slide is something I posted to my Facebook wall. Today, I decided to get frank with my friends and family - particularly the Asian side of my FB feed - about white supremacy and our community\'s role in upholding it. I rarely use Facebook outside of work and when I do I keep it light. I don\'t normally like upsetting the status quo. I don\'t like confronting the more conversative side of my life either. Honestly hitting post made me feel a bit sick. But I realise it\'s necessary for me to step up and into my privilege. I invite you to do the same. If you want help approaching friends and family to engage them on this topic I\'m happy to send you the whole of what I wrote. Or I can help you craft your own. I especially encourage any Asian followers to reach out if they\'re nervous. I know it\'s hard. We\'re living with decades worth of picking apart cultural norms or staying quiet and compliant. I want us to start a dialogue together. We need to put in the work. And a note to any black followers. I see you. I hear you. I\'m standing right by you. #AsiansForBlackLives$

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$When you cook a Keralan fish curry so good it\'s worthy of it\'s own Instagram post 💁 Three-ish months into lockdown and I do still find cooking pretty therapeutic (though there has been the occasional takeaway/ready meal cause I\'m only human) and people are always surprised that I don\'t really like religiously following recipes. I definitely come from the school of chuck stuff in, taste as you go along, and watch your pans. I don\'t measure anything either. I think that kind of chaotic energy stresses a lot of people out soz 😅$
$Celebrating the 4th July and Hamilton\'s release to Disney+ with a #throwback snap I took back in 2016 in New York ⭐ This was pre-Tony Awards sweep but well into it\'s opening at the Richard Rogers. I think I attempted the digital lotto for tickets about four times and almost cried outside of a Starbucks because I didn\'t get them 😅 It would be another two years till I\'d get to see the show in London. And now after FOUR years I\'ll finally get to see THIS original Broadway cast 🙌$
$Anyone else feeling just very...weird at the moment? With all these lockdown restrictions easing but equally feeling like this is all too soon, whilst also desperately wanting to see family, but also still scared of a second wave, but also just wanting to go about without performing some odd form of parkour to avoid walking into people, then also wanting to hit people with a 1 metre measuring stick and spraying antiseptic at them. I feel cooped up but also fine with staying home if it means keeping others safe for longer. Idk this was a ramble, so feel to brain dump things in the comments if you\'re feeling a type of way too 💞$
$Father\'s Day hits differently this year. Feeling especially grateful my Dad has been recovering well and home with Mum today. Even though I can\'t be with him this year after everything that\'s happened the past few months, I\'m just thankful he\'s still here. I realise that\'s a really privileged thing and my heart goes out to anyone who\'ll be struggling today and any day without their Father figures 💕$
$Happy #IndieBookshopWeek 📚 And a reminder that now\'s as good a time as any to:- 📚 Invest in diverse authors! (Swipe right for my book haul) 📚 Support your indie bookstores 📚 And shop small and local Luckily Muswell Hill Bookshop hit all three for me today!$
$I see you London 💞 One from yesterday\'s walk in the park and my first time properly trekking up to Ally Pally. Had some proper bursts of social media free time this weekend and I think it did my head good. Been doing a lot of offline thinking about this platform for antiracism and am trying to work out the best way I can be useful going forward, whilst also unpacking a lot about my experiences as an East Asian woman growing up in the UK. I don\'t think Instagram is built for that. Debating a move back to familiar blogging territory again 🙃$
$So it\'s Friday. How\'re we feeling folks? Now that many have posted their black square, the blackout hashtags have been and gone, and platitudes and promises have been made that #BlackLivesMatter, I wanted to highlight the passage on the second slide, in which #AudreLorde wrote in 1980 • \"...Black women and our children know the fabric of our lives is stitched with violence and with hatred, that there is no rest.\" • I highlight this passage in particular because it serves as a reminder that even though George Floyd\'s killers have been arrested and charged, WE are not done yet. There is no rest in dismantling white supremacy. It\'s tiring and exhausting, but it\'s absolutely necessary work. • I wrote a blog post in 2017 called \'Welcome to the resistance: Are you sitting uncomfortably\' as a direct response to the Women\'s March. I wrote it as a plea to keep sitting with the uncomfortable energy that comes with active allyship, anti-racist work and challenging white supremacy, not just for the march but for the long run. That endurance faltered quickly after the Women\'s March. Many of us fell complacent - myself included. • We cannot allow that to happen again this time. Because that tiredness, exhaustion and fatigue is something Black and minority ethnic people live with everyday. • The call to arms remains the same as it did back then. Whatever you do, don’t resolve to stand still on issues. Embrace being comfortable with being uncomfortable.$
$Y\'all know what to do. Links in the bio. Do your homework. Donate. Write. Protest. And more importantly keep going. P.s. STOP clogging up the BLM/Black Lives Matter hashtags FFS you\'re pushing actual helpful resources out of the feed 🤦🏻‍♀️$
$This won\'t be a long-winded post and I won\'t bore you with another rant about why #BlackLivesMatter. I know my audience on Instagram is mostly liberal and informed. I see you posting and sharing and shouting angrily. I see (most) of you doing \'the work\' What I am here to do is ask you to get uncomfortable with me. The second slide is something I posted to my Facebook wall. Today, I decided to get frank with my friends and family - particularly the Asian side of my FB feed - about white supremacy and our community\'s role in upholding it. I rarely use Facebook outside of work and when I do I keep it light. I don\'t normally like upsetting the status quo. I don\'t like confronting the more conversative side of my life either. Honestly hitting post made me feel a bit sick. But I realise it\'s necessary for me to step up and into my privilege. I invite you to do the same. If you want help approaching friends and family to engage them on this topic I\'m happy to send you the whole of what I wrote. Or I can help you craft your own. I especially encourage any Asian followers to reach out if they\'re nervous. I know it\'s hard. We\'re living with decades worth of picking apart cultural norms or staying quiet and compliant. I want us to start a dialogue together. We need to put in the work. And a note to any black followers. I see you. I hear you. I\'m standing right by you. #AsiansForBlackLives$

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