Tag: lifestyle

  • The F Word: Getting real about my finances

    The F Word: Getting real about my finances

    We’re talking a ‘taboo’ subject today and one that’s still seen as inappropriate to be so brazen about.

    Finances

    I know. Snoozefest. But since opening up about earnings and spending habits to friends and family I’ve personally found it less scary to actually approach something that’s a bit dry and still a bit dirty to talk about.

    Money + Me

    I’ve never been terrible with money. I’ve been very lucky to have been in some form of employment (even if just part-time) since the age of 17. I don’t have any ‘debt’ other than my student loan and I do a have a pretty immense fear of going ‘in the red’ as it were.

    I don’t say all of this to brag, but I think it’s important to establish and recognise that I do come from an incredibly privileged background and was lucky my parents instilled a ‘work hard and save your money’ ethic in me.

    But even so, I know I have some bad habits. Last year, in particular, was a particularly ‘spendy’ year. Though I’d never take back the experiences of my India trip, I did dip into my savings in order to afford it. I was also, for the first time, doing financially well at work and took the fact that I knew I’d worked hard as permission to spend any disposable income as such. Surely that was my reward for how long I’d worked through Uni and in a graduate job?

    Whilst for some this kind of spending is totally reasonable, for me, I needed a wake-up call and that was the realisation that I wanted to do so much more.

    I want to travel more, I possibly want to do an MA one day, I want to get out of a renting cycle and own my own space (even if that’s just a teeny studio flat), and (as much as I adore Oxford) I would like to try live in another country for a bit.

    Unfortunately, all that costs money.

    Which means I need to stop being so scared to check my bank account and pay attention to what I’m flinging my debit card at.

    The Audit

    I drew a line in the sand at the end of 2017 and accepted I spent frivolously at times. And that’s ok? It’s already done and spent. I can’t take any of that spend back and 2018 onwards is my fresh start.

    This month, I’ve taken a good, long hard look at how I approach money and for the first time tracked every spend, every bill, and every ‘ treat yo’self’ purchase.

    Rather helpfully I found a super amazing spending/saving tracker on Twitter which has been so helpful in categorising my spend and allows tabs for tracking potential savings. With a little editing and playing around, I got a pretty decent idea of what my spending habits are, how much money is coming in, and what my current financial standing is.

    There’s good and bad in there, but overall I guess I’m not in as dire straits as I thought.

    Setting Financial Goals

    There is still, however, a lot of room for improvement!

    Some things I’ve started already, such as moving to a much cheaper phone contract, shopping at my local corner shop or farmer’s market on a Saturday because I’ll get way more for my money, and batch cooking to cut down on the amount I eat out.

    But here are a few some of the goals I have in mind to kick-start some healthier spending habits.

    Follow the 50/20/30 rule:

    Popularized by Elizabeth Warren (yes, that Elizabeth Warren) this budgeting method has you split your income into 50% for essentials (rent, food, bills etc.) and 20% for your savings account. The remaining 30% is then allocated to non-essential spending (i.e. that cheeky book purchase, cocktails with friends on a weekend, or tickets for a cinema trip).

    The saving portion of this is especially something I want to focus on. My saving method has usually been to bung an arbitrary amount into my online savings account. Some months it would be loads, in other months not so much. Setting a specific amount and building a budget around the fact I know that’s going into my savings no matter what.

    But I also like the fact that the rule does allow for you to y’know spend on stuff that you enjoy rather than focus so heavily on saving or only spending on the ‘boring’ stuff.

    Setting up a f*ck it fund:

    Or for a more family-friendly version an emergency piggy bank. I want to start building up enough money so that I have at least 6 months worth of my total outgoings in case, god forbid, I can’t work anymore, fall ill, or need it for a family related emergency. Shit happens and I want to be more prepared for it.

    Equally the fund can potentially be for that moment in my life where I do want to take a leap into something bigger. Whether that be moving, or taking a break to travel, or going back to school, again, I want to be prepared for it.

    Equating mental health to unnecessary spend: 

    One thing I’ve been doing alongside tracking my spend is also working out when my mental health slips are, or when I’m stressed or tired. I’m definitely an emotional spender and will more than happily spend money on a book or drinks out if I’m feeling like I need a pick me up.

    This goal is bigger than just how I spend money, but it’s also taking into account the mental mindset I’m in when I do and working out a long-term way to address my mental health rather than the short-term buzz of buying something.

    There are more, some more private, others require a bit of work. Much like my 2018 writing goals I wanted to write about these to not only be held accountable but also because it’s a topic we shouldn’t shy away from. I’ve listed a couple of bloggers who’ve equally inspired me to write this post.

    If any of you guys have any tips on saving those pennies let me know, I’d love to open up the conversation on money, budgeting and finances in general out into the blogsphere.

    R Xx

     

  • Re-Resolutions | Reworking your goals after January

    Re-Resolutions | Reworking your goals after January

    Congrats you made it to February fam. How are those resolutions coming on? Crap?

    Join the club.

    Despite the enthusiasm and renewed sense of ‘LET’S DO THIS’ I always get in January, I, like everyone around me kinda gives up around mid-month. This January has been particularly tough, so I don’t blame anyone for just saying ‘sod it’ with their resolutions – the World is burning anyway, am I right? But thinking generally, 2017 aside, the ‘New Year, New Me’ rush can get a bit too much. We’re getting new calendars and diaries, we’ve overindulged over Christmas or had time away from ‘normal’ life to reflect on the year gone by. There’s so much pressure to change right there and then.

    The thing is, I think we’re all kidding ourselves thinking we’re actually ready to change in January. Because January sucks, man. We’re overly bloated, we’re (likely) skint, and we’re so so tired from the manic-ness of December.

    So how about starting afresh now? In February.

    Think about it. I’m gonna make an educated guess that you have a pretty good idea what you’re 2017 is looking like right now. Whether that be job changes or relationship changes; choosing to travel, or start school again, or have a family, or buy a house; or maybe you know you’ll be heading to college in September, or graduating come July. You create that outline of the next 12 months in your head within the first few weeks of the year. It’s takes you a while, it doesn’t hit you on January 1st.

    For me this means taking a long hard look at my ‘balance’ goal and re-prioritising what exactly I want to balance in light of anything that’s now up and coming in 2017.

    So now we’ve popped our head over the proverbial parapet of 2017, now is the perfect time to reevaluate what you’re aiming for. Any why stop at February? Life does change and this consistent approach to stepping back and re-evaluating your goals can be useful at any point in the year.

     

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    Let me know how your 2017 goals have changed already.

    Are you on track? Or will you need a reset too?

    Ria Xx

  • 3 Reasons To Start A Personal Journal

    3 Reasons To Start A Personal Journal

    As the new year rolls in, I’m sure you’re inundated with dozens of self-improvement posts across the blogsphere – and are probably sick to death of them already as well (and if you aren’t check out my writing goals and one word resolution *wink wink nudge nudge*). Whatever your resolutions this year I want to suggest one very good one that you can keep going for as long as you please.

    Start a personal journal.

    There are many very good reasons to start one but here my own, personal top three:

    1. You can be completely honest with yourself

    You know those thoughts you have in your head that you feel like you cannot tell anyone for whatever reason? Get them down in that journal. You can be as crass, gross and unapologetically honest with your journal because it’s literally just you reading it.

    2. You can use it to clear your head

    Whenever some ‘big’ happens to myself in my life or if I feel overwhelmed, I journal. Just the act of getting thoughts out of my head and onto paper works wonders in terms of trying organise my thoughts – like a Pensieve!. I’ve often found a session of physically writing out my train of thought in my journal ended with me coming up with a resolution to the problem I was writing about.

    3. You can see how just far you’ve come

    Whilst my blog is fantastic for documenting my current passions and interests, and my social media is good for documenting those more public ‘ life’ memories, my journal chronicles my mindset, how I really felt and my mental health through all of this. Reading back journal entries from even a few months ago makes you realise just how much you’ve changed as a person, good and bad, and can provide you with an idea of just what you need to do to move forward.

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    Do any of you keep a journal? Will you now? And what will you use it for?

    Ria Xx